Adventurous Mom

Dr. Wayne Dyer says that peo­ple that argue for their lim­i­ta­tions get only that, lim­i­ta­tions. Imag­ine if one argued for suc­cesses, or goals or dreams….. It is a known fact that you get what you man­i­fest or cre­ate what you focus on. The same con­cept were to be true if you were rid­ing your bike and you see a huge crack in the side­walk, you don’t want to hit the crack for fear you might fall off the bike, but you can­not help but to look at the crack, stare at it, focus on it—and then Wham! you hit it and fall off your bike. You tell your­self “see I KNEW I would hit the crack and fall off-I stink at rid­ing a bike!” You focused on what you didn’t want, and then pro­ceeded to argue for your limitations.

Women are espe­cially guilty of this lim­it­ing talk:

“I’m too shy”

“I’m too fat”

“I’m not good at computers”

“I could never make money, I’m not smart enough”

“I’m just not good at that”

“I can’t because I’m a Capri­corn, Tau­rus, Virgo….”

If you con­tinue to argue for the things you don’t want, your focus will zoom in on those things. Your inten­tion, or the energy that cre­ates the things you desire will focus on those lim­i­ta­tions and those lim­i­ta­tions will become real­ity. There is a PURPOSEFUL way to do exactly oppo­site of this, or to focus on what you WANT. It is very simple:

Reverse your idea of what you don’t want, into some­thing that you DO want:

Instead of “I’m too fat” changes to “I am healthy and fit!” (Notice I didn’t say skinny here… I per­son­ally believe it is bet­ter to strive for healthy and fit than skinny. Our soci­ety has too much of a dis­torted view of skinny, and ide­al­iz­ing skinny can mean becom­ing unhealthy.)

–or–

“I could never make money, I’m not smart enough” changes to “I gain wealth eas­ily because I am intel­li­gent and wise”

Now repro­gram­ming your mind takes a lit­tle bit of time, but it hap­pens. Imag­ine this: At one point you used to believe you couldn’t swim, or ride a bike, but after prac­tice, your body didn’t change, but your belief changed. The dif­fer­ence between being a swim­mer and a non-swimmer is merely a belief!! That is great news!!! So is the dif­fer­ence between believ­ing you can have, do or be some­thing or not….that is just a belief.

A good rec­om­men­da­tion for repro­gram­ming your mind is to write down what you want to HAVE, DO, or BE on 3 x 5 cards. Post them on your bath­room mir­ror and every time you pass by them, you look at them, focus on them, and place your inten­tions on those things. Dur­ing the day, at least twice, focus on those things. Keep your eyes open to the pos­si­bil­i­ties around you pop­ping up, and trust me they will. Be pre­pared to act….do not dis­miss the oppor­tu­ni­ties to act!! Those are small mir­a­cles hap­pen­ing right in front of your face!