Adventurous Mom

Whether you are on the fence about what energy means to you, we all have it.  In fact, I can hook you up to an EKG machine and instantly tell you whether your heart has a healthy energy rhythm or not!  Our entire bod­ies are arranged on many lev­els of ener­getic prin­ci­pals and some that we don’t even know about!

So you know when you’re around some peo­ple or events that just drain your energy?  You know who I’m talk­ing about, is it Aunt Martha that likes to talk a lot about her health prob­lems, or is it the boss that pushes his agenda onto you?  Here are 6 Great Tips to Pro­tect your energy from them!

1.  Real­ize that it is YOUR energy and you don’t have to share it

Often times you feel an oblig­a­tion to share your energy with some­one that may clearly breach your space and energy. Women are very sus­cep­ti­ble to this because we think that we must be nice, or we must be accom­mo­dat­ing.  We don’t want to offend any­one, so we’d rather allow them to infringe our energy and suck us dry.  This does not honor your energy!  When you feel some­one breach­ing your energy, take a step back and eval­u­ate.  Ask your­self, “Who’s energy am I sharing…and it is worth it?”

2.   GROUND your Energy

Ever heard of the phrase, your best defense is a good offense?  This is the same con­cept.  Hav­ing in your aware­ness that your energy should be grounded will allow you to not be sus­cep­ti­ble to energy zap­pers.  One way to do this is to align your body in a straight up and down posi­tion, and close your eyes.  You can also imag­ine an imag­i­nary line run­ning from your belly but­ton to the ground (3 or 4 feet below you) and then from your belly but­ton, to chest through your head and to the sky.  In ancient cul­tures this would be called, “Align­ing your Hara”, but we’ll call it Get­ting Grounded.  Take three deep breaths and con­cen­trate on get­ting grounded.  This will allow you to align your energy to be fully aware of your sur­round­ings and your energy.  So key!

3.  Your Time, Your Money and Your Resources are Energy

Has any­one ever taken up too much of your time?  Is it that pesky sales per­son or the oblig­a­tions that you feel to run the PTA, or to clean the house inside and out every day? Or have peo­ple asked for money and you did not want to give it?  It just did not feel right?  These are all exam­ples that your energy extends to your resources beyond your body.  Hon­or­ing your time energy, and your money energy to be in align­ment with what is true for you instead of what is true for oth­ers is another way to elim­i­nate those energy zap­pers.  If you spend your resources because you feel oblig­ated rather than hav­ing the choice or the desire to do so zaps your energy.  Be aware of your choices regard­ing these energies.

4.  NO is the new YES

This is a won­der­ful say­ing that a good friend Ken Bech­tel at Find­ing You in the Goo uses con­stantly.  Instead of feel­ing ener­get­i­cally that NO is a neg­a­tive con­cept, real­ize that when you say no, you are say­ing YES to your­self.  And who is the most impor­tant per­son in this world to you?  YOU.  So, honor your impor­tance and be okay with say­ing NO to oth­ers, you are in fact say­ing YES to yourself!

5.  Bound­aries, Bound­aries, Boundaries

When I first real­ized I had bound­ary issues, I imme­di­ately thought “No way, peo­ple with bound­ary issues are those that are like door­mats, they’ll do what­ever, when­ever for whoever…that’s not me.”  But it was, and it was a hor­ri­ble eye opener!

Bound­aries come in many shapes and sizes.  Bound­aries, whether phys­i­cal, or ener­getic, are so very impor­tant to hon­or­ing your­self.  Are you get­ting pushed around at work because you are not will­ing to stand up and fight the good fight?  It is just eas­ier to go with the flow?  Are you uncom­fort­able with how fast your spouse dri­ves the car with your kids in the car, but you aren’t allowed to say any­thing?  These are all exam­ples of bound­aries.  It is really about you—not about them.  In order to be clear about your bound­aries, you must be clear about what you are okay with, and what you are not okay with.

6.  Push or Pull Your Energy When necessary

When con­fronted with a per­sis­tent energy, it may become nec­es­sary to Push your energy, or to Pull on another’s energy.  What this essen­tially does is gives you the POWER to be able to make change, get proac­tive and take back your energy.  I have found that when I am in con­tact with some­one who likes to pull my energy, or drain me, I often have to PUSH back.  Some­times I give lit­tle warn­ings, or lit­tle sig­nals, and when they do not respond, and then I give a decent ener­getic push.  It does not have to be mean, and the push can come from a sim­ple state­ment with good inten­tions.  “I’d really love to explain why I did what I did, but I do not feel that this is the right time or place to engage in such a con­ver­sa­tion.”  Assertive, respect­ful, and direct.  This is what occurs when your energy is in align­ment with your intentions.

You may be think­ing that a lot of this is deal­ing with nor­mal human emo­tions, but there is an ener­getic shift that occurs even before the emo­tions occur or the dis­cus­sion hap­pens.  This is the energy that I am talk­ing about.  Most of you have felt energy when you’re around some­one that is angry, the energy feels harsh, or when you’re around some­one depressed, the energy feels drain­ing.  Pro­tect­ing your­self from the volatile energy zap­pers starts with you, a good defense and an aware­ness of energy.

For now, Be Grounded, Be Whole, and Be Ener­get­i­cally Adventurous!!

Let me know how your energy is today, leave a com­ment or a ques­tion! I love feedback!

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