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Posts Tagged ‘pleasure principle’

INSPIRED

I am inspired to cre­ate this blog to share with oth­ers, espe­cially lead­ers, entre­pre­neurs, and other women regard­ing the jour­ney that I have dis­cov­ered. By no means has my jour­ney been solo, nor has it been easy, but it has def­i­nitely been reward­ing. I hope that with this blog I can inspire oth­ers, give some “AHA! Insights” or help to cul­ti­vate lead­ers. I cer­tainly did not get to this place with­out Men­tors, Coaches and Great Lead­ers. I still make mis­takes (a lot of them) but the great­est stu­dent is a teacher, the great­est teacher is a stu­dent.
From the out­side, my life seems to be charmed. Some would con­sider me “for­tu­nate, lucky, in the right place at the right time”, but I will argue against, that. I will say that I have been focused, clear and intent on my deci­sions. I have con­sis­tently made deci­sions, most of them good some of them poor.

WE ARE DESTINED TO MAKE DECISIONS

No one is proud of those poor deci­sions, nor am I, but those deci­sions have served purpose.…meaning that I have taken the lessons from those deci­sions and made pos­i­tive changes. Events in our lives, both good and poor serve us and allow us to learn. It never feels good, it is painful and some­times so painful that we do not repeat those lessons.

PAIN IS SOMETIMES NECESSARY

Imag­ine not being able to feel the pain of a hot flame.…we would con­tinue to touch the flame and burn our­selves. Pain serves a pur­pose, both phys­i­cally and emo­tion­ally. Pain allows us to make a deci­sion to change our per­spec­tive: is your job so painful you can­not stand it? Or is it painful, but the idea of chang­ing jobs is even more painful, so you chose not to? How about going for that pro­mo­tion? My thought on this is to veer away from Pain into more of a Plea­sure con­tin­uum. The idea of start­ing a busi­ness was Painful, scary, fright­ful. The idea of the Plea­sure that we could ben­e­fit from the busi­ness, increased flex­i­bil­ity, cre­at­ing my des­tiny, pos­si­bil­ity of increased wages out­weighed the Pain of start­ing a busi­ness. This is my par­a­digm. Every­one has a dif­fer­ent Pain/Pleasure con­tin­uum. Those who “suf­fered” through a 4 year or 6 year degree under­stand this well. For those who want to read more on the Pain/Pleasure par­a­digm, here is one of my newest read­ers: “Awaken the Giant” Anthony Robbins.